Anger Management

The feeling of anger itself is not a sin. However, what we do with this emotion can cause us to sin. The bible tells us to be angry but don’t sin (Ephesians 4:26). So, in what ways can we sin when we are angry?

One way to sin can be with our mouth. The words that we say are powerful. And saying the wrong things can hurt others and ourselves as well. There are several scriptures in the Bible that tell us how to and how not to speak. When we are angry, we often want to “vent” or “let it out” through words. Proverbs 10:19 says “In a multitude of words transgression is not lacking, but he who restrains his lips is prudent.” We have to be careful not to talk too much when we are upset. I find that talking about it too much just makes me more angry. Thus causing me more stress. When we talk too much about our anger, the Bible says we are foolish Proverbs 12:16 says “A fool’s wrath is presently known: but a prudent man covereth shame.” So when we are angry with someone, it is wise not to slander that person, or talk about it to everyone. That also transforms into gossip (See post titled “What a re you Talking About?”).

The Bible tells us to not only have few words when angry, but not to be so quick to speak. James 1:19 says “Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath” Sometimes we can get upset about something before we even have a clear understanding of what is going on. Many times we fall out with people over a “misunderstanding” Neither party was quick to listen and both parties were too quick to speak.

We can also sin in anger when we are quick tempered(Ecclesiastes 7:9). Walking around with a short fuse can be stressful to people around you. People may not want to be around you if they feel as if they have to walk on egg shells out of fear of setting you off. When we show restraint with our anger, we are showing strength. Proverbs 16:32 says “He that is slow to anger is better than the mighty; and he that ruleth his spirit than he that taketh a city.” Physically, you can be the strongest woman in the world. But, if you can’t control your temper, you are weak.

Part of anger management is avoiding conflict all together. Proverbs 15:1 says “A soft answer turns away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.” When someone is upset with us, the way we respond and react can often determine which way the situation goes. It is easy to respond to someone the way they are responding to us. An argument takes two people. So, walking away and turning the other cheek is the Godly way to respond. When we go God’s way, we are going the right way.

Anger management is a part of self control. Are we going to let our anger control us? Or, are we going to let God control us? If you find yourself to be quick tempered or if you have issues with the way you handle anger, spend time in prayer. Every day when you wake up, ask God to help you with your emotions. Don’t go around that mountain anymore. By letting God control the way you respond to conflict, you will find yourself living in peace.