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Managing The Emotion of Anger Part 4 of 4

admin — Thu, 05 Jan 2012 13:00:08 +0000

God’s word tells us about being quick tempered. James 1:19 tells us to be quick to hear, slow to speak and slow to wrath. By stopping to listen and not having something to say right away, we are not letting things get us upset so fast. The thing that could make us upset could just be misunderstanding that can cleared up in a matter of minutes. If we fly off of the handle and get upset too fast, we can waste time and energy on something small. (See also Proverbs 14:29)

Remember, anger itself is not a sin. What we do with it can be a sin. If you have issues with anger, pray and ask God to help you with it. Then, study His word on anger. God’s word is the best anger management course anyone can ever take. His methods won’t fail.

Scriptures when you feel angry:

Psalm 37:7;8

Proverbs 14:9

Proverbs 29:22

Ephesians 4:26

James 1:19, 20

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Managing The Emotion of Anger Part 3 of 4

admin — Wed, 04 Jan 2012 13:00:06 +0000

Sometimes, anger will cause us to say things that we don’t mean. We may even say thing out f anger that can escalate the situation. Proverbs 15:1 says “A soft answer turns away wrath, But a harsh word stirs up anger.” Just because we are the ones that are angry, doesn’t mean have the liberty to say whatever we are feeling at the time. If we respond to the other person in a Godly manner, the situation can be contained and controlled. The “word war” can be completely avoided. This even makes it easier for us to do what Psalm 4:4 told us to do…walk away and pray.

I believe that if we are angry for too long, it can lead to unforgivness. This then leads to resentment and bitterness. Now we a have whole new problem. This is why God told us how long we should angry. Ephesians 4:26 says to not let the sun go down on our wrath. This means we basically have 1 day to get over whatever it is we are upset about. Verse 27 tells us to not give place to the devil. I believe immediately taking our problem to God is not giving the devil any room to work. There wouldn’t be any targets in our minds for those fiery darts to hit because we have given them over to God…

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Managing The Emotion of Anger Part 2 of 4

admin — Tue, 03 Jan 2012 13:00:02 +0000

The third part of Psalm 4:4 tells us what to do when we feel angry, “…Meditate within your heart on your bed, and be still”. By the scripture telling me to meditate on my bed, I believe it is just saying to get away from whatever it is that is making me angry. One of the definitions that the Encarta World English Dictionary gives for the word meditate is “empty or concentrate mind”. So when we are meditating, we empty our minds of the negative thoughts that are filling our heads causing us to remain angry. When emptying our thoughts, we should give them to God and tell Him how we feel (1 Peter 5:7). One of the biggest mistakes we often make when we are upset is getting on the phone and calling someone. Now we are sinning by gossiping about it.

The definition of meditating also says to concentrate our minds. I can’t think of anything else to concentrate the mind on but God. We have given Him our problem so we don’t have think about it any more. Now we can concentrate on Him. I think that Psalm 4:4 is basically telling me that when I feel angry, don’t sin, just go somewhere and pray about it…

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Managing The Emotion of Anger Part 1 of 4

admin — Mon, 02 Jan 2012 13:00:00 +0000

I believe anger is a dangerous emotion. I am sure you have probably heard of grief counseling. Maybe you’ve even heard of therapy to help someone get rid of a phobia or a fear of something. But we hear of anger management more often that we hear of the others. If we allow it, anger can cause us to say and do things that we may later regret. Negative actions from anger may even lead to severe consequences. The Bible has several scriptures on how to deal with anger. So, God gave us specific instructions on how to deal with it.

One thing I believe that people misunderstand is whether anger is a sin or not. I am sure many of you have heard of “the seven deadly sins”. Anger is listed among them. Anger however, is not a sin. It is a natural emotion. In fact, the Bible tells us to be angry. Psalm 4:4 starts out by saying “Be angry…” If someone does something to hurt us or we are mistreated, it is natural to be angry about it. The second part of Psalm 4:4 tells us “and do not sin”. What we choose to do with that emotion determines whether we sin or not…

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Anger Management

admin — Mon, 11 Apr 2011 12:00:45 +0000

The feeling of anger itself is not a sin. However, what we do with this emotion can cause us to sin. The bible tells us to be angry but don’t sin (Ephesians 4:26). So, in what ways can we sin when we are angry?

One way to sin can be with our mouth. The words that we say are powerful. And saying the wrong things can hurt others and ourselves as well. There are several scriptures in the Bible that tell us how to and how not to speak. When we are angry, we often want to “vent” or “let it out” through words. Proverbs 10:19 says “In a multitude of words transgression is not lacking, but he who restrains his lips is prudent.” We have to be careful not to talk too much when we are upset. I find that talking about it too much just makes me more angry. Thus causing me more stress. When we talk too much about our anger, the Bible says we are foolish Proverbs 12:16 says “A fool’s wrath is presently known: but a prudent man covereth shame.” So when we are angry with someone, it is wise not to slander that person, or talk about it to everyone. That also transforms into gossip (See post titled “What a re you Talking About?”).

The Bible tells us to not only have few words when angry, but not to be so quick to speak. James 1:19 says “Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath” Sometimes we can get upset about something before we even have a clear understanding of what is going on. Many times we fall out with people over a “misunderstanding” Neither party was quick to listen and both parties were too quick to speak.

We can also sin in anger when we are quick tempered(Ecclesiastes 7:9). Walking around with a short fuse can be stressful to people around you. People may not want to be around you if they feel as if they have to walk on egg shells out of fear of setting you off. When we show restraint with our anger, we are showing strength. Proverbs 16:32 says “He that is slow to anger is better than the mighty; and he that ruleth his spirit than he that taketh a city.” Physically, you can be the strongest woman in the world. But, if you can’t control your temper, you are weak.

Part of anger management is avoiding conflict all together. Proverbs 15:1 says “A soft answer turns away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.” When someone is upset with us, the way we respond and react can often determine which way the situation goes. It is easy to respond to someone the way they are responding to us. An argument takes two people. So, walking away and turning the other cheek is the Godly way to respond. When we go God’s way, we are going the right way.

Anger management is a part of self control. Are we going to let our anger control us? Or, are we going to let God control us? If you find yourself to be quick tempered or if you have issues with the way you handle anger, spend time in prayer. Every day when you wake up, ask God to help you with your emotions. Don’t go around that mountain anymore. By letting God control the way you respond to conflict, you will find yourself living in peace.

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Letting It Go…The Right Way Part 2 of 2

admin — Wed, 02 Feb 2011 12:00:23 +0000

…Continued

Another way we often relieve the stress of hurts and offenses is to mumble and grumble to ourselves. This is something that God has been dealing with me about. Ephesians 4:30 tells us not to grieve the Holy Spirit. While reading this the other day, the Lord led me to Numbers 1:11. Here, the children of Israel were complaining in the wilderness. Their complaining displeased the Lord. As a result, the fire of the Lord, consumed some of those that were on the outskirts of the camp. Choosing to mumble and complain about an offense rather than giving it to God, can burn up blessing that God may have for us. We can be shutting doors to some things that we have asked God for and not even know it.

When we are hurt of offended, it can be hard to let things go. It can even be hard to give things to God. Our flesh wants to control the situation and maybe even get revenge. Ephesians 31 tells us to put away bitterness, fighting, wrath, anger and evil speaking. Verse 32 goes on to say, “And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another even as God forgave you.” Holding a grudge isn’t going to make the situation better. I have found that it takes more energy to be upset with someone than it takes to forgive them and move on. Holding grudges and staying angry only hurts us. It doesn’t affect the other party.

Ladies, I know it can be hard to let offenses go. But, God wants us to forgive those that do us wrong. The only way we can do this and any thing else is by seeking Him. As something the Lord has been dealing with me about, I have to continually pray for His help in overcoming in this area. I invite you to do the same.

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Letting It Go…The Right Way Part 1 of 2

admin — Tue, 01 Feb 2011 12:00:19 +0000

There many different ways of relieving stress and getting over a hurtful situation. Taking a long walk, or even sitting quietly can be very relaxing. Sometimes, exercise routines that encompass kickboxing help me to relieve stress. When someone hurts, or offends us, we can react in one of two ways. We can operate in flesh, or we can operate in the spirit.

Ephesians 4:29-32 tells us how to use our mouths when dealing with offenses and disagreements. Verse 29 says “Let no corrupt word proceed out of your mouth, but what is good for necessary edification, that it may impart grace to the hearers”. So many times, we make the mistake of telling others when some has offended or hurt us. While doing this, we often bad mouth the other party. When we make this choice, we are not using our words for edification. When we are hurt or offended, we should go to God and ask Him how He wants us to deal with the situation. Acting out on our own may make the situation worse.

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It’s All About Love pt 3 of 5

admin — Tue, 27 Jul 2010 12:00:21 +0000

Today, I would like to look at 1 Corinthians 13:5. This verse tells us how love behaves itself. Some of the aspects of love tell us what we should do. But many tell us how we should act. 1 Corinthians 13:5 begins by saying that love “does not behave rudely”. We have all heard the saying “mind your manners” We are pretty familiar with the obvious things that are rude; for instance, not saying please, excuse me, and thank you. There are other things that classify as being rude as well. Proverbs 11:22 says “As a ring of gold in a swines snout, So is a lovely woman that lacks discretion” Examples can be found in the loud ghetto acting women we see in public. We have all encountered them if we were not once one ourselves. They have no regard for others around them as they laugh and talk really loud on their phones or use bad language. You can be the prettiest woman in the room, but without discretion, you are like a pig pig wearing a gold ring. You look good on the outside, but you are not pretty on the inside.

Next, 1 Corinthians 13:5 says that love does not seek it’s own. In other words, love is not selfish. In today’s world, selfishness seems to be all around us. It seems that everyone wants to excel in one area or another and will do it by any means necessary. Even if it is at the expense of someone else. When we walk in love, we don’t behave this way. Philippians 2:3 tells us to not do things out of selfish ambition. There is nothing wrong with striving to succeed. The way that success is obtained is what is important. Philippians 2:4 follows by saying “Let each of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of others” We are to look out for one another. In a post I recently wrote titled “Supporting The Ministry”, I talked about how I noticed that during the New Testament times, the early Christians took care of each other. If someone had a need, they would see to it that the need was taken care of. In walking in love, we are to not just care about our own needs. We are to be concerned with the needs of others as well.

The third behavior given to us in 1 Corinthians 13:5 is not being provoked. Being provoked is the same as being short tempered. This means make you upset at the drop of a dime. Did you know that not being provoked goes hand in hand with long-suffering? When we are long-suffering, we don’t allow anger to come in so quickly. Although being angry is a natural emotion, what we do with it is what often gets us into trouble. Ephesians 4:26-27 says “ Be angry and do not sin, do not let the sun go down on your wrath nor give place to the devil” One way we can sin is with our mouths. We allow our emotions to control what we say and we end up saying hurtful things. Colossians 3:8 tells us to avoid this type of behavior. Not letting the sun go down on our wrath means that we are to forgive someone when they offend us and not hold a grudge. 1 Corinthians 13:5 says that love thinks no evil or keeps an account of evil. Not letting the go down on our wrath means we have 1 day to get over it. After that, we shouldn’t bring it up anymore. When we forgive someone, we let it go. Not giving place to the devil means we take it up with God, not our neighbors, family, co-workers etc. When we give our hurts to God and truly let Him deal with the issues, there is no place for the devil. We have given that place to God.

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Anger Management

admin — Sun, 11 Apr 2010 12:00:21 +0000

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